Breathe… again

The flustered mind cannot comprehend right from wrong. It also cannot distinguish fear, anger and it doesn’t know what to do, so it looks to flight or fight. The breath brings oxygen to the blood, which then takes it to those different parts of the body that are in need of some more oxygen. Not just the default amount that they are receiving from the involuntary breathing.
There will always be factors to which you can attribute your failure or mishap but hesitate before you do that. It’s easy to look at other’s faults because in comparison when you’re looking at your own fault somewhere you know what is true and not. Even if you lie publicly with all the confidence you can muster up, somewhere in your heart of hearts you know that you’re obscuring facts or extrapolating facts and that’s the reason that it just a tad bit harder to look at yourself with all your faults and merits. This is why you should not look at others faults but your own first because you know the most true picture about yourself. That way you’ll be true to the failure and not exaggerate the successes where you might just tend do that for other people.
Understand the reasons for whatever is happening around you. Don’t just judge the book by looking at its cover. Go over the details and split hair. Try to understand the premise of arguments and their logical flow. Look at actions and why people do whatever it is that they do. After you’ve looked at the gaping holes in your logic or your way of doing things, it’s time to patch those holes. Try to imagine what the consequences would have been like if you had not done things the way you did them. Incorporate the fixes into the imaginary scenario and look at how things would have been different in your mind’s eye. Yes, things could still have gone wrong but imagine if they would have gone wrong. Every time you’re successful in undertakings things can go wrong but they don’t and you’re successful. Similarly imagine this scenario in your head with the changes that you made in your approach and imagine that things don’t go wrong. Once you’ve run this scenario in your head. Re-run the scenario again. Try to understand what led you to take the missteps that you took. Then breathe… again. Did you assume things would go alright before you broke the situation down into it’s elements? Did you miss taking notes during the meeting? Did you oversimplify the complexity in a situation? Did you not account for variables that were present in the situation? Revisit the situation and understand what made you take those missteps. After you’ve understood the reason behind the failure and understood what lay behind those reason you have effectively broken down the problem.
You are human though and the beauty is that you can incorporate learning from this error into your future undertakings. Every error and failure is a learning mistake. You can and should learn from it. You can adjust and create a new learned behavior that will make you more careful, more resilient, more understanding, less irritable under stress and more successful in your future undertakings.

Love and Peace,